There seems to be an epidemic of divorce.  I believe that over 60 percent of couples eventually get divorced.  Too high.  In my opinion, there are only a few reasons why people get divorced:

1)  cheating (extramarital affairs)

2)  lack of acceptance and intolerance

3)  addiction, vices, and mistreatment and abuse

4)  lack of communication

5)  money issues

6) in-law or relative issues

A couple that decides to divorce for any of the above reasons will be extremely lucky and guiltless if there are no children.  People with children have no clue of the effect their divorce produces on their offspring.  For the younger ones which have no real understanding, him or her think they are OK.  Even for adult children, they do not approve of their parents splitting.  When younger children of divorce mature, they will definitely have serious problems with relationships and the parents won’t know what is happening to them because they thought it was OK when they were young.  Also, a divorce will force the offspring to take sides.  They cannot say that my father and my mother are OK and they just don’t like each other.  The worst thing a parent can do is bad-mouth the ex.  So, unfortunately, this is the reality of life and there is no magic cure or solution.    Counseling seldom if ever works.  There is no practical advice to give to people who want to get divorced.  It is hard to reconcile once their minds are made up.
The most important question they have to answer to themselves is this: “Am I better off with him (or her), or without him (or her)”, and after a careful consideration, act accordingly.

When divorced people find another person, and they want to get married to them, it would be a good idea to analyze the baggage each one of them has. Usually blended families have a great percentage of failure due to the fact that the new husband or wife will prefer their own children to the relationship to the wife or husband and that will cause resentment in one or both of them with no solution in sight. Divorced men or women will carry that stigma with them for the rest of their life.

Finally, the parents WILL SUFFER eventually through the children even though the divorce happened many years ago. There will be no escape from suffering.

BESIDES all the above, let’s not forget that the divorced person will have to pay alimony, child support and all the medical bills that the children may have until the offspring are 18 years old!