Love and hate are abstract concepts. To define what love is accurately is almost impossible. Why? Because for each person it has a different meaning. Most people will say that love is a feeling. Where?  In your heart ? In your mind? The heart cannot act by itself without getting your mind involved. For many people, giving gifts and material things such as money, very expensive jewelry, flowers, or loving cards is a demonstration of love. For others, it’s sweet talk, affection, compliments, encouragements, compassion, and sympathy, etc.etc. Saying to the loved one that he or she makes one happy is also a good sign of love. For some women, the expression of love is to give their body to the man they love without realizing that men will take advantage and will not return the love that women expect.

In the Bible, Jesus mentions that there is no greater sign of love for another person than to give your own life for the other. He himself  gave his life for us!  In our world, very few people are willing to give their own life to protect others, and the ones who have done have done it during times of war, mostly because they had to.

Still, my own definition of love is to do things for the one you love. To help in any way or form to make the loved one’s life less stressful or more pleasant is quite important to me, more so  than any other form of love.  Of course I believe that words of affection are also important, but not as important as doing things.

On the negative side, when the person we love does not reciprocate and rejects us, our love flies out the window.  And for some people, feelings quickly turn from love to hate.

Talking about hate, it’s easier to express hate for others.  Fortunately, hate stays within ourselves, unless we insult the person, reject the person, or perform some other harmful act which brings consequences.  People who out of hate kill a person will end up in jail.  A form of hate is also verbal abuse, demeaning, condescending, but it has to be purposely so, such as calling names, harsh criticism, etc.  But fortunately, I can only speak for myself –  I have never hated anyone.  Maybe I don’t like some people, but in doing so I am only harming myself.

Some people express hate to others by wishing them all kinds of misfortunes, sickness, even they wish they were dead! Those wishes stay with themselves and accomplish absolutely nothing!

To summarize, I believe that true love is doing the best thing for yourself and others, regardless of who they are or what they are.  That’s it.